How To have a happy and successful life

Every one of us is looking for success in our life. How we define success is a matter of individual choice. To some Success is the amount of bank balance you have to some it may be the number of lives he has been able to influence for betterment so on and so forth.

Whatever is your definition of success it can be only achieved if you follow one basic principle and that is happiness or if you are happy?

If you really want to be happy in your life you need to follow a few basic natural principles.

Take Care of your Parents and in laws:

This is one of the sure shot paths to a successful and happy life. Irrespective of whether you are a man or a woman it is imperative that you take care of both your parents and in laws. It may seem to be difficult but it is not impossible to take care of them. By taking caring I just donot mean taking care of them monetarily and fulfilling their material needs . Taking care is a much wider term. In most cases you will find that your parents or your in laws have enough savings to meet there on monetary requirement it is the loneliness which is the most difficult to meet for them and also remember that if you are in kind of trouble your companies or your acquaintances who are around you will all shrug of these responsibilities with a few sympathetic words. Even you will find yourself alone without the company of your friends but it is your parents, in laws and your immediate family which will be standing by your side.

Do not ever forget that it was your parents who have sacrificed everything in their life to make you reach where you are today. Your in laws have sacrificed to nurture your spouse the way he or she is and it your life partner whose support is quintessential for your success. Also it is your next generation which is watching you very closely how you behave with your parents and in laws which they are learning and it is what you sow that you will reap. Indian spirituality is of the belief that parents are the representative of god and the almighty has chosen them to be the providers of the physical form to his most valuable creation, you.

Be a giver and not a taker

In the first place let me make it clear that It is not intended that you throw yourself into the debt trap to be a giver. What we mean is from your earnings share a portion of it to improve the life of others around you. However it is important that you do not become a giver with an expectation of name or fame in return of it. Nature gives you back in multiples of what you give to others so if you become a reason of other people’s happiness it is happiness what you get and if you are the cause of any ones sorrow you get the same in multiples.

By becoming a giver you relinquish self-centeredness. Donot go with the common belief that those who accumulate the most win. It is important to accumulate but not in your banks but in the hearts of the common man.

Look at our beloved APJ Abdul Kalam sir the people’s president, when he passed away possibly the entire country was in a deep sorrow but did he accumulate a huge bank balance, no he did not.

Be a Hero in your Private Life

One of the prime reasons why not even 5 % of the entire population is successful or happy is because we have a wrong belief system. We go by the wrong beliefs which have been imbibed in to us that you should heed to what others say. This is something which is entirely wrong The society in large wants everyone to follow what it says and ridicules when others go against the set norms. Yes if Einstein or Edison or Newton or for that matter any one would have followed what the society had said they would not have been our heroes today.

Be original, unyielding to wrong and firm on your ethics you will be a hero. Yes you will face challenges you will feel like quitting in between it is nothing wrong but do not quit. Because it is your fear which is trying to get better of your belief. A belief that moving through a path of ingenuity decency is effortless. This belief has been programmed into us from a young age and it is wrong so what happens is we quit the moment we face the smallest of the obstacles.  The social culture which develops soft, weak and delicate people who cannot keep their promise or bail on commitment is the prime reason.

Lets not forget that there is no limit to the number of fruits, trees or that matter stars in the sky the reason being there is abundance of everything in nature similarly there is also abundance of money and wealth in the universe.

A set of people in the society are firm believer that a person can become stinking rich only by earning money in an unethical way which is totally wrong. Such useless statements are made by a set of selfish people who abuse the minimum knowledge they have and do not intent that others also become wealthy .

Money is a essential commodity which is available in abundance in this universe. It is a very good thing which you can use to make your self and others around you happy do wonderful things for the people around you and also help the people in need . Just one thing you need to take care is that in your efforts to make others around you happy or help people in need ensure that the recipient is not a selfish creature . Selfish Humans are a curse on the planet and are an unnecessary baggage we carry in our life.

Always remember you can’t change the people around you but you can change the people around you.

About The Author

Hi I am Arun Surana a past enttrepreneur now a trainer I help people improve there life. I am reachable at arunksurana@gmail.com